You once pictured it clearly — love, marriage, a child.

Simple. Natural. In order.

But now, you’re 35 …maybe 38, maybe 43.

And nothing about this journey has been simple.

You’ve clapped at baby showers with hands that trembled.

You’ve danced at christenings with tears tucked behind your smile.

You’ve cheered for others while quietly grieving for yourself.

Every cycle feels like a countdown. Every silence, deafening.

Some days, it’s your body you question.

Other days, it’s the world around you.

“Still no baby?”

“Your mate don born twins finish.”

“Your husband no go wait for you o, no let am carry anoda woman!”

The comments sting. The expectations suffocate.

The cultural pressure…intense.

You’re told to “have faith,” but it feels like you’ve run out of prayers.

You’ve looked at your reflection and wondered if you’ve failed as a woman, as a wife, as a daughter.

But hear this loud and clear:

You are not broken.

You are not barren.

You are becoming!

This isn’t punishment. It’s a pause, one preparing you for a path that may look different, but is no less divine.

In a culture where motherhood defines womanhood, it’s easy to feel like you’re disappearing.

But what if you rewrote the story?

 Surrogacy — A brave act of love, not a shortcut. It’s still your child, still your DNA, just carried by another woman willing to help you rise

Adoption — Not second-best. Not Plan B. It’s an answer to a child’s silent prayer and… maybe yours too.

 IVF, Egg Donation, Foster Care — These are not signs of defeat. They are signs of resilience, science, and spirit working together.

No matter how the child comes, your heart is the home they’ll know first.

Before anything else, name the pain. Say it out loud: The rooms you left early. The questions you dodged. The tears no one saw. The ache of wondering if you’ll ever be called “Mummy.”

This wonder can change and become a reality with surrogacy, it can become real with adoption or IVF. Your pain will all be gone, and you will remember it no more once you hear the name ‘mummy’

Motherhood may take a detour, but the destination is still love.

So, to every woman over 35 who is still waiting:

We see you.

We honour your path.

And we’re saving you a seat at the table, because your story isn’t over.

It’s just beginning.

Some chapters take longer to write. Others come with unexpected turns. But every path to womanhood, wellness, and motherhood is worthy and seen.

That’s why we’re inviting you to join a circle where honesty lives and compassion leads — Moms Round Table. It’s more than a gathering; it’s a space for real talk, real tears, and real laughter.

We meet on the 3rd Saturday of every month, welcoming women who are navigating fertility treatments, embracing life in their 40s, or simply seeking connection in the journey of becoming or being a mom.

Come sit with us. Your voice matters. Your presence is powerful. The next event is the 19th of July, 2025, at 7 pm, and it’s all about surrogacy. We will be hearing from a mom who had her baby through surrogacy, and this led to her starting an advocacy agency on surrogacy, called Precious Conceptions.

Come hear her story and be inspired!

(Written by Chelsea)