Let’s talk about a pain many of us were taught to endure in silence.

If you’ve ever been told “it’s just bad cramps” or “that’s what being a woman feels like,” you’re not alone. But what if I told you that pain isn’t always normal? That what you or your sister or your friend is feeling could be something more, something called endometriosis?

Sadly, in many parts of Africa, this condition is either unheard of or completely misunderstood. Our mothers didn’t talk about it. Our doctors rarely bring it up. Yet more and more women, especially in their 30s and 40s, are living with the symptoms every single day.

So, what is endometriosis?

It’s when tissue similar to the lining of the womb grows outside the uterus. These growths don’t belong there, but every month during your cycle, they behave like normal womb lining, breaking down and bleeding. Except, there’s nowhere for that blood to go. This causes pain, swelling, and sometimes damage to surrounding organs. It’s not just “painful periods.” It can cause infertility, bowel issues, fatigue, and pain during sex.

Let me pause here and say this: You are not imagining your pain. You are not weak. You are not overreacting.

Many African women go undiagnosed for years, some are misdiagnosed entirely. We’re often dismissed or given painkillers with no real explanation. And for those in rural or underfunded areas, access to gynaecological care is almost non-existent. That’s why we have to speak up for ourselves and for one another.

What should you look out for?

• Extremely painful periods (the kind that makes you miss work or school)
  
• Pain during or after sex
  
• Fatigue that won’t go away
  
• Painful bowel movements or urination, especially during your period
  
• Difficulty getting pregnant
  

If any of this sounds familiar, it’s time to advocate for yourself. Ask your healthcare provider about endometriosis. Keep a diary of your symptoms. Seek a second opinion if you must.

And if you’re a mum, aunty, or big sister, talk to the young girls around you. Let them know that they don’t have to suffer in silence. Their pain deserves attention. Their health matters.

At momat4ty.com, we believe in sharing real stories and trusted information—because when we know better, we do better. Let’s keep the conversation going.

Endometriosis is real. It’s treatable. And African women deserve answers—just like anyone else.

Let’s continue this crucial dialogue, together. If you recognize the shadow of endometriosis in your own life or in the life of someone you know – the relentless pain, the overwhelming tiredness, the challenges with starting a family – please don’t let these symptoms go unaddressed. Take that step to seek medical guidance, be persistent in your questions, and champion your own health. Remember, you are part of a community, and your experiences are valid.

If any of this has resonated with you, if you’ve ever felt like your concerns about your body have been minimized or left you feeling lost, please know that you are not navigating this alone. And you don’t have to find all the answers by yourself.

That’s the heart of Moms Round Table – a dynamic live discussion on TikTok where African mothers come together to share their truths. From the impact of endometriosis and the journey of fertility to the pressures of family and the fight for better healthcare – we talk, we connect, we listen, and together, we explore solutions.

We’d love for you to join our next Moms Round Table:

📅 Saturday, May 24th 🕗 8 PM (WAT) 📍 Find us live on TikTok @sushluv69 and be sure to follow @momat4ty on TikTok

This happens every third Saturday of the month – mark it in your calendar, prepare your favourite drink, and join a supportive network that is actively changing the story for African women, one open conversation at a time.

Because your story deserves to be heard. Because you deserve compassionate care. And because you deserve understanding and answers.