Love is so selfless, effortless, and sweet! Yes, sweet because it always feels so good. Love is genuine. It is believed that older women already have the characteristics that ultimately define self-love. Such as Self-esteem, self-care, self-acceptance, self-awareness, self-empowerment, self-respect, self-compassion, self-expression, and self-worth. Self-love is defined as a state of appreciation of oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological, and spiritual growth. It means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Most older moms are career-oriented and as such has attained a certain level of growth. They do what they want and what makes them happy.

Therefore, the focus is on Self-Care. Remember having self-care is a part of self-love. Self-care as the name implies means taking care of yourself so that you can be healthy, you can be well, you can do your job, you can help and care for others, and you can do all the things you need to and want to accomplish in a day.

To achieve self-care ask yourself this question- how are you really doing? How is your soul?  and what your body’s asking for. There is no main routine of how self-care should work. It differs for everyone and there are 3 different areas that self-care is classified under.

  • Emotional self-care means being in tune with your emotions, having positive thoughts, and saying “no” to things that cause unnecessary stress.
  • Physical self-care means understanding and prioritizing sleep, engaging in an exercise routine that you are consistent with. Knowing the importance of choosing healthy and nourishing foods over highly processed ones
  • Spiritual self-care, this means getting in tune with the religious side, spending time in nature,meditating , incorporating regular acts of kindness into your day, or keeping a gratitude journal

Dear Older Mom below is 5 activities I believe you can do that will help you in achieving Self-Care.

  • Determine which activities bring you joy, replenish your energy, and restore your balance.
  • Start small by choosing one behavior you’d like to incorporate into your routine in the next week.
  • Build up to practicing that behavior every day for one week.
  • Reflect on how you feel.
  • Add in additional practices when ready.

In conclusion, remember the most important relationship to have is with yourself. Having self-care has a positive effect on your mind body and soul. Do with that self-care today.